LDI ~ Comforting Reassurance for a Grieving Soul

Logotherapy Dream Interpretation (LDI)
 
Theory on Interpretation of Dreams
(Logotherapy Immediate Workshop Manual – 2009)
 
“Dreams - can reflect hopes and wishes form the unconscious, not only repressed aggression and lust, but calls from the conscious towards meaningful behaviour.  Advice from the unconscious to the conscious.”
 
“Frankl has an expanded concept of the unconscious.  He asserts that it contains, also, repressed hopes, goals, and meanings to which dreams are royal roads.”
 
“Viktor Frankl.... sees the unconscious not only in a psychological but also in a spiritual dimension as a royal road into a much wider land.  It can lead to meaning.”
 
“Dreams may make you aware of repressed drives and traumas that are too painful to face.  But dreams may also convey advice from the conscience.  A dream interpretation from this perspective can help you to discover what is meaningful.”
 
(Because the messages in dreams are often hard to understand, because of their symbolic nature, it is often easier to elicit ideas from your client using metaphors, fantasies and imagery.)
 
My client struggles with stressful and painful family dynamics which creates a lot of sadness and grieving in her.  I think enough will be said below.
(edited for clarity and shortening) 
 
Keep in mind that this client and the last are both clients who I have worked with before, so I already know a lot of their story which makes it clearer for me to have an idea of what their dream might be bringing to them without having to work too hard with the client for answers.
 
5 March 2020
 
My client’s dream
I woke up crying the other morning, dreamed one of our kids had passed, I was sooo sad.  She is okay, but I felt so saddened and grieved in the dream.
 
Panayiota’s Logotherapy dream interpretation (LDI) guide
Dreams always, always bring us unique and meaningful messages.
 
Client
She had said the day before she was getting married this year.  I just know who it was in my dream and I woke up crying. That’s all I can remember.
 
She doesn’t get on well with her dad. Long story, she was wrong in that situation and although she is trying to be friendly there is a rift that I fear will not be forgiven easily.
 
Panayiota
I will think about this. I need to be in the Zone... no Zone the way I'm feeling right now. 
 
(I’d had a hard day and a BIG shock in the morning thinking I’d lost a dear friend and colleague [all a misunderstanding], but it had left me completely worn out, and it was already late in the day, so I didn’t think I could do a dream interpretation as I was feeling so exhausted already.)
 
Client
No problem, just thought I would share, I do not dream a lot and most times like this, I wake up crying and forget what led up to the sadness.
 
Panayiota (suddenly feeling inspiration coming on)
Okay... so there is great sadness for you... the rift between your daughter and her father creates a sadness equivalent to death, because you can’t see a way to it healing.
 
My dear friend, it seems we both bear the burden of deep sadness connected to wanting family connections to be perfect... so much I missed out on as a child, and I believe it was very much the same for you. I love you so much.
 
Are there any more details in the dream you can remember?  Words, actions, places... anything... every little detail helps... like what led to you hearing of the passing in the dream... who told you... etc.
 
Client
My rescue triggers go into action and I disassociate instantly so that the sadness and trauma is wiped out of my memory. Don’t know who told me in the dream, I remember just seeing my daughter’s son and future husband standing alone when I got the news, he is a quiet man, so I don’t think I heard it from him or the child. I had received the beautiful video the night before and had had a negative remark made about her asking him to marry him. Perhaps that rejection and bitterness followed through in the dream. (my client’s husband had made the negative remark when he saw the video of his daughter’s beautiful wedding proposal, so I imagine the moment that my client needed and wanted so much to experience as joyful, had been painfully spoiled by her husband’s unnecessary harsh and cruel words).
 
Panayiota
Try very hard to work out, that there IS a meaningful message especially for you... to somehow bring you peace for your grieving.  Your grieving is extremely deep, represented by the death of what you feel cannot be given life anymore… so if I had to guess... seeing the man (your daughter’s future husband) and child together represents what is missing... father and child together when all else is lost.  This is a message of real hope for your daughter... that she will have what is missing, even though you don't.  Your spirit and conscious levels are working together to affirm to you, that you already feel deep down, that she will have what is missing and in that alone my dearest friend you can find peace.
 
Client
Thanx Panny, I know all things work together for good and I know this is good for her future.
AND you weren’t even in the ZONE....lol.  You are great. Love you forever.
 
Panayiota
Love you forever too. So, can I use it anonymously to share on my blog?
 
Client
Yes
 
Panayiota
🥰😘
 
Thank you for sharing with my client and I. 
 
We’d love to hear what you think of this interpretation which resonated well with my client and helped her to feel less anguish.
 
~ Panayiota Ryall